One of the best pieces of advice I ever got was not even offered as advice. It was just a comment on life from a regular customer who hadn't been in for a while. I told him that I was glad to see him and asked where he'd been. When he told me that his wife had died, my heart sank. I had no idea what to say to this man, 40 years my senior, who'd just lost his wife. I told him how sorry I was and asked how he was doing. "I'm ok," he said. "In marriage, you have good years and you have bad years. I'm just glad that if she had to go, it was in a good year."
This has been a crucial tidbit of information for me over the years. It applies to all aspects of life, not just marriage. But more than helping me through bad years, it's increased my gratitude for the good years. We must take the good with the bad- always there is balance.
For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction - Newton's 3rd Law of Motion
To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven - Ecclesiastes 3:1